OPINION
Published on January 20, 2010 By Big Fat Daddy In Misc

http://bigfatdaddy.joeuser.com/article/301135/Somebody_to_Love

In answer to MamaCharlie's challenge to tell you how I got to Arizona Hall that April night...I walked...from the Pontiac dealer on Miracle mile, a good 7-8 miles away. But I already covered that in an article almost two years ago, linked above. That will save some time. For me. But the real question, in keeping with her theme of how the stars all aligned to make it possible for us to meet, is how did I get to be in Arizona at all. My brother was in Fort Ord CA, I wanted to be in Fort Ord CA, I made the mistake of asking the Army if I could go to Fort Ord, CA...they said no.

How it happened was this: I returned from Vietnam on the 23rd of December, 1966. I was bused from Travis AFB into Oakland Army Terminal for "processing". They issued us new uniforms and shoes and made the alterations and sewed on the stripes and patches and while all that was going on, they had personnel-type people getting assignments for us and issuing orders and arranging pay and all that. It took hours to do all this processing and the main hang-up was getting assignments for all of us. It became common practice later to just send everyone home and mail them orders later. It wasn't so common in December of '66 but that is what they did to me. After a prolonged wait at the Terminal for orders I was called to come up to the desk and they gave me orders to go home and wait for orders. OKAY. I was still begging for Fort Ord as I got into the taxi heading for the airport.

I was home for three weeks when the letter came with my orders in it. To Fort Huachuca, Arizona. I was underwhelmed. Arizona? "Ain't nothin' there but steers and ...". The running joke was that there was a girl behind every tree...the nearest tree was in Bisbee about fifty miles away. To make matters worse, I allowed the Chief to talk me out of buying a car until I knew what things were like at the new post. So I flew. San Diego to Phoenix wasn't so bad. Phoenix to Tucson wasn't so good. Tucson to Fort Huachuca was serviced by a choice of a five-hour bus ride or flying on Apache Airlines...in a plane just like Sky King used to have...in the fifties. May have been the same plane for all I knew. The door never sealed and whistled like a partly-opened car window the whole trip. I mentioned that to the crew and they assured me that we weren't going to be high enough for that to be a problem. Well, not for them, anyway. For me, it just added to the terror of the situation. Remember, fresh out of Vietnam? Not a fan of low-flying aircraft.

Well, what things were like at the new post was: things were spread out...way out...and everyone else there had their own car. I did a lot of walking the first month or so. I went home on a three-day pass to buy the Chevelle of my dreams...and I guess that decision had something to do with the series of events, too. Instead, I bought a '65 GTO and I couldn't resist jumping on it every chance I got. That caused a problem, a twisted axle that brought me to the Pontiac dealer in Tucson and the chain of events expressed in the link above.

So, an assignment I couldn't have, a car that wouldn't work, a long walk to the college, two blind dates that didn't work out, and there I was, standing next to the green Goat, meeting the young girl who turned out to be the girl of my dreams. That's pretty much how I got there.

I found out later that MamaCharlie had almost cancelled out that night because she wasn't feeling all that well. But Kathy fixed her up a cup of tea in hopes it would help her feel up to the date. It worked. So between the two of us there were many "alternities" that could have happened; call it Karma or Fate, or the alignment of the planets, or just dumb luck but what ever it was, I am grateful for it.


Comments
on Jan 21, 2010

Karma, Fate, Dumb Luck?  Maybe all maybe none, but what is true is that it was clearly meant to be.  Congratulations again on finding your soul mate!

on Jan 21, 2010

I don't believe in coincidences.  I believe in divine appointments tho.  I have tons of personal examples  like what happened to my son last week. 

His very young marriage is on the rocks; not looking good.  We keep telling him to take the high road.  Do everything in his power to make it work.  Don't give in to doing the wrong thing which can be quite easy to do.  We also keep telling him to watch and pray.  God will make himself known to you.  It's been hard for him and there's been more than one night he was so choked up he could hardly speak.  He goes to counsel alone.  He eats alone.  He is alone in a new state with a new job etc. 

After a few weeks of struggling thru this...he was sitting in a coffeeshop (alone) with his computer and a cup of coffee when he couldn't help but overhear two men about 10 years older than he talking.  They were talking about marriage, God and the bible.  So my son got up went over and introduced himself to them.  He explained his troubles and how he's at his wits end.  They immediately took him under their wings, praying right there for him in the coffee shop.  They met him the next day at their church waiting for him at the door.  One of the men stayed with him during the entire service even though he had already gone to the earlier service with his family.  He then invited my son to lunch with his wife and family. 

To make a long story short.  This guy is going to mentor my son thru all his troubles. He's going to meet with my son on a weekly basis.  The two men he heard at the table the day before were accountability partners meeting weekly with each other to hold each other up during their own difficult times.   From what I understand they both have good marriages but want to keep it that way.  One recently married a widowed woman with four teens and it's his FIRST marriage so the other guy is helping him get thru the teen issues and problems that arise with that. 

This whole thing is an answer to prayer.  "God please put someone in my son's path that will help him get thru all this." 

No coincidence.   

 

on Jan 21, 2010

Doc:  Thanks.  

KFC:  You'll get no argument from me.  I could, and might, drag this chain back a couple more years to times when I had things happen that I know preserved me so I could be at the Dorm that night.  I know what I call  it but don't want anyone to discount what happened because they don't like the "religious" implications.

on Jan 22, 2010

I went back and read the first article you linked to....got me all teary eyed just like I did when I read it for the first time....